By Legendary Dating Coach David Wygant
Do you ever feel like no matter how hard you TRY, and despite the fact that you go out and do EVERYTHING I tell you to DO, that you just can't meet women?
So, what is going on here? Is there just something "special" about these other guys? (Hint: The answer is NO) Or...Is there something about YOU that just isn't attractive to women?
The answer is ... yes and no. Huh? I can hear you now thinking, 'Wait a minute David, are you saying I'm NOT attractive?!'
Absolutely NOT! In fact, let me tell you something -- and you need to pay CLOSE attention here. YOU can meet and attract women every day and everywhere you go -- and you can be totally 100% successful in your dating life.
And you can do it RIGHT NOW ... BUT (isn't there always a "but?") there MAY be something about you right now that IS keeping you from attracting women.
I'm going to tell you the NUMBER ONE thing you need to have to attract women which you very likely may be MISSING, and how working on changing this ONE THING will immediately and completely change your success in meeting women.
Let's talk about this, because if you work on this, you will see a MASSIVE TRANSFORMATION in the kind of response you are getting from women.
Pretty exciting, huh?
OK ... So, let's start with a request from me: I want you to go look in the mirror and tell me what you see.
- Do you like who you see?
- Are you comfortable with the person you see?
- If you were someone else, would you want to meet you?
If you walk around believing that you can't meet somebody, then your whole energy is just that. If you walk around believing that you can't meet somebody, then guess what ... you are NOT GOING TO meet somebody.
Nobody is going to rescue you. There is no one person in the world who is going to rescue you from you.
In order to be able to go out and meet women, you've got to first start a relationship with yourself. When you wake up every morning, you have got to feel good about yourself.
You have to like yourself. You have to like who you are. You have to like what you're all about.
It is ESSENTIAL that you love who you are and what you're all about.
It doesn't matter if you buy all my products and learn every single technique I teach on how to attract women, because if you don't find yourself attractive
then nobody else will either. Period. It's just a fact.
There are some good exercises to help you find yourself attractive. For one, ask yourself whether you like your wardrobe. Do you like the way you look in your clothes? Any clothes you don't like your body in you should give to charity.
Do you like the way your body looks? If you don't like the way your body looks, start working out. Get on a good exercise and diet regimen. You are not going to become confident overnight, nor are you going to get to your ideal fighting weight overnight.
By taking small steps every day, however, you ARE going to feel more confident. And this alone will make the BIGGEST difference in how attractive you are to women.
Becoming a confident person just doesn't happen with the snap of the fingers.
It takes time, work and effort.
Another great thing to do in January is to get yourself some new clothes. With all the after-Christmas sales, most clothing items are 50% off.
Let me suggest something FUN to do while you're shopping. Go to a lot of clothing stores and try on a lot of different clothes.
Have a sales girl take digital pictures of the clothes you try on. Then at the end of the day, take a look at all the pictures and see what you like the best.
The next day go back and purchase the clothes that looked best on you. You'll see which ones those are in the pictures.
The clothes that look the best on you will also be the clothes in which you will have the most fun. Don't buy the first thing you see just because the sales girl was cute. (I know more than a few of you have done this!)
The number one thing about a man that is attractive to women is inner confidence. She is not going to believe in you if you don't believe in you.
So you might as well start packaging yourself better so you can start to believe in yourself better. It all starts with YOU.
Working on the external is a fast way to feel better. Working on the internal takes a lot more time, BUT is more than worth the time and work.
The internal work is what will allow you to cultivate the kind of deep and real inner confidence that will not only allow you to be able to attract the women you MOST desire but, even BETTER, it will allow you to ENJOY your life and the process of meeting women every day.
Imagine how THAT would feel! (and you CAN feel that way for the rest of your life)
One thing that helps with the internal part is goal setting. Work on small parts of you every single day. By doing this you will start to feel better about yourself every single day.
I could throw every cliché in the book at you - Rome wasn't built in a day OR You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink - but EVERYTHING in life takes time, effort and energy. The problem is that we live in a culture that is based on instant gratification.
That is why embracing small wins every single day is really important. If you went out tomorrow and purchased some new clothes that make you feel better about yourself, that's a win.
If you decide to start working out, you may not have your ideal body type in a day. Every day you work out, however, you are that much closer to having your ideal body type.
So do something every day that's going to get you closer to being more confident. Also, stop trying to fix a lifetime of problems overnight.
When I work with a client who is stubborn and who has a lifetime of insecurity and self-doubt, I will keep working with them until they understand and embrace the greatness that they are. (and let me tell you ... I have had some REALLY stubborn clients)
I have had clients who will give up on themselves really easily. I don't give up on people, though, because I truly believe that we all have the power to become who we want to be. So don't give up on you!
If I knew you personally, not only would I not give up on you but I would kick your ass and help you realize how powerful, sexy and confident you can be around women.
If you want to learn how to breakthrough all your fears and excuses, and how to cultivate the kind of deep inner confidence that will allow you to easily and enjoyably attract women every day, then click here to read more:
The Fearless Code - Be THAT Guy who feels naturally confident and fearless around any Woman